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[–] [email protected] 55 points 3 months ago (6 children)

People wonder why I’m an optimist. I’m not really. What I do is expect people to disappoint me. After all, none of us are perfect. When they don’t I’m surprised. When they do, I’m not mad, as just met my expectations.

I find people who don’t like other people expect them to not disappoint them and when they do they get angry and upset. It’s really just a mindset change.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I'm the same way and my SO hates it and calls me a pessimist or a negative thinker. I expect the worst and hope for the best.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Well to be fair it probably is pessimism. That doesn't make you a pessimist in the same way that me expecting to wake up every morning doesn't make me an optimist.

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