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I'm about 6 years post bottom surgery, and it's been good and bad.
I had issues with scarring for the first 12 months that made for a really difficult time dilating, and also meant that I wasn't able to have sexual interactions the way I was hoping to have them. I battled with that for a while, then covid came along, my mental health took a dive, and I stopped dilating.
Now, I'm effectively "zero depth".
And that all sounds bad right? But it's not. My dysphoria is gone. Clothes fit me the way they're meant to. I feel comfortable naked. I am comfortable in my skin in a way I couldn't be before bottom surgery. And sure, I can't have sex the way I want, but that was already true before I had bottom surgery, so even though I didn't get everything I hoped for, I am still way better off than I was before my bottom surgery.
Yep!
Not really. Nothing comes to mind
Farts that roll up the front are a whole different experience :P
But more seriously, I don't really remember what "before" was like anymore. It's just normal life these days.
I'm in the same boat and have always felt so ashamed for it, I'm glad I'm not alone in that.
And fully agree with the rest, basically "cured" my dysphoria. I'll occasionally still feel insecure about things but not in a distressing way and I guess that's also just an experience from existing as a woman anyway.
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