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Their behaviour is weird and self-contradictory and drag is sick of it!

People constantly ask drag why drag uses neopronouns. And then when drag answers, they get mad about the answer. What gives!?

This person here seems nice, no shade on them, but look at the downvote numbers. Three other people upvoted their accepting comment, saying drag should be dragself. But it looks as though those same three people downvoted drag for explaining drag's pronouns. So they hate drag for being drag, but they like platitudes and symbolic gestures of acceptance. It doesn't make any sense.

Drag is wondering whether drag should even explain drag's pronouns to anyone anymore. Last week, drag got banned from [email protected] for explaining drag's pronouns. Someone asked, and drag answered their question. Drag didn't agree with the situation and made a thread on yepowertrippinbastards - https://lemmy.nz/post/15935996 - and most of the people in the thread accused drag of changing the subject to dragself and demanding others use drag's pronouns. Other people clog up the thread with demanding drag explain themselves, and it's drag's fault they asked.

Maybe drag should just ignore people who ask drag to explain drag's pronouns, or tell them no. But surely the transphobes will get mad at that, too.

Drag thinks maybe the reason they get mad when drag evades, and mad when drag complies, is because they just want a socially acceptable excuse to be mad at drag. They want to manufacture conflict so they can attack the trans person and pretend it's not about drag's transness.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago) (2 children)

Drag conjugates verbs as if drag is talking about dragself in the third person.

For example:

People constantly ask drag why drag uses neopronouns.

If “drag” were being used as a first person pronoun there, it should read:

People constantly ask drag why drag use neopronouns.

Also, using an apostrophe to indicate possession, as in:

But it looks as though those same three people downvoted drag for explaining drag's pronouns.

Reads like a third person perspective where “drag” is being used as a proper noun. “My”, “your”, “her”, “his”, and “their” don’t have apostrophes.

I’m not trying to criticize drag, just giving a possible explanation why there is confusion about drag’s pronouns.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

When you talk about a they/them pronoun user, do you conjugate the verbs as if you were talking about them in the plural? When nonbinary people were first becoming socially accepted, a lot of people complained about that. "He is Greg", "They are Sam". People complained that the conjugation makes it sound like Sam is more than one person. They said they/them can't be singular, because of the conjugation.

We moved past that drama when we realised that conjugation doesn't indicate plurality. It doesn't indicate grammatical person either.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 hours ago

Fantastic point. I knew there was something wrong with this argument but I couldn't place it