Their behaviour is weird and self-contradictory and drag is sick of it!
People constantly ask drag why drag uses neopronouns. And then when drag answers, they get mad about the answer. What gives!?
This person here seems nice, no shade on them, but look at the downvote numbers. Three other people upvoted their accepting comment, saying drag should be dragself. But it looks as though those same three people downvoted drag for explaining drag's pronouns. So they hate drag for being drag, but they like platitudes and symbolic gestures of acceptance. It doesn't make any sense.
Drag is wondering whether drag should even explain drag's pronouns to anyone anymore. Last week, drag got banned from [email protected] for explaining drag's pronouns. Someone asked, and drag answered their question. Drag didn't agree with the situation and made a thread on yepowertrippinbastards - https://lemmy.nz/post/15935996 - and most of the people in the thread accused drag of changing the subject to dragself and demanding others use drag's pronouns. Other people clog up the thread with demanding drag explain themselves, and it's drag's fault they asked.
Maybe drag should just ignore people who ask drag to explain drag's pronouns, or tell them no. But surely the transphobes will get mad at that, too.
Drag thinks maybe the reason they get mad when drag evades, and mad when drag complies, is because they just want a socially acceptable excuse to be mad at drag. They want to manufacture conflict so they can attack the trans person and pretend it's not about drag's transness.
I am very old and equally confused. Drag is OP's name? And drag prefers to have no pronouns, instead only being called by name? Is there a term for this preference? I've heard the word "neopronouns" before but I thought that referred to anything outside of he/she/they.
Edit: Nevermind, found this write up that explains it. https://pflag.org/resource/what-do-you-do-when-someone-doesnt-use-any-pronouns/
It really doesn't seem that complicated of a preference to abide by.
Drag's name is Dragon Rider, and drag uses pronouns. Only two, though, instead of the twelve that most people use. Drag/dragself.
You sound like a reasonable person who will listen to drag's explanation and understand it. You're not at all like the people drag is complaining about. Those people get mad at drag for explaining it and choose not to understand.
Thanks, that makes more sense now. I've found over the years that some people feel embarrassed and offended when they don't understand something, and it causes them to lash out in a childlike way. I imagine that a lot of the bigotry Drag is experiencing comes from that kind of immaturity. Sometimes we/drag just have to accept that these people's child-like minds will never be able to comprehend even the simplest concepts that are laid before them. In online spaces, the block functionality can be a great tool to stop these people in their tracks.
While it's understandable to want to educate others, at the end of the day it's really not our/drag's job to drag people kicking and screaming into enlightenment. That being said, if someone is harassing or misgendering drag in a space where drag can't simply block that person, it would be appropriate to take necessary action to stop this from happening.