the_dunk_tank

it's senseless to resist Putin, give your country to him and nobody will get hurt.

If you take a step back from your regularly scheduled CNNBBCMSNB propaganda and actually look at the facts of the situation, then you'd see that yes it is in fact senseless. You'd also see that Putin isn't actually claiming the entirety of Ukraine - The Russian government is claiming the region's that had been shelled by Ukraine since 2014 in breach of the Minsk II treaty. Russia has since added additional demands as Ukraines bargaining position has weakened during the war. It has weakened because Ukraine is losing, and it is continuing to lose.
It is senseless because Ukraine can't win. Right now the long-propagandised glorious Ukrainian counteroffensive can't even break the first of the three defensive lines. Thousands have died, thousands more are dying, and they are no step closer to accomplishing the goals of the counteroffensive. Even in a far off fantasy land where some of the goals would be accomplished, they'd come after thousands more dead Ukrainians. And for what? Russia has hundreds of thousands in reserve, a wealth of equipment stockpiled. There are no significant gains to be made, and every day as more Ukrainians die, their bargaining position gets worse.
Me thinking they should bargain from as strong a position as possible is somehow less supportive of Ukraine than yours that posits they should all just throw themselves to their deaths, and then let Russia pick the corpse of the country as it wants.

Serious mode: what is your ideal outcome of this conflict? I'm genuinely interested and willing (and hopefully able) to learn.

Since we're being Serious(tm) let's drop the idealism which permeates liberal discussion of this war. Let's instead be realistic.
Ukraine should negotiate for a peace immediately, with as good terms as it can get, and take it. That peace will probably involve ceding the autonomous regions, maybe also the major cities that were captured in the latest russian offensive as well. It will also include the decoupling of the azov-battalion and other Neo-nazi related officials and institutions from Ukraine and probably a promise of no NATO membership.
That's what I would imagine the current peace treaty would result in. Do I think it's "fair" or "moral" or whatever? No not really, but it's not gonna get any better, and at least thousands can go home and be with their families instead of bleeding to death after stepping on a mine.