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This might be controversial, but for me personally, I would tell myself to not be so afraid to try HRT, that I’m going to take it later anyway, and that I would regret not starting earlier.
I ended up getting HRT off the Internet at 21, but I knew about DIY HRT, and was tempted to buy it, back when I was around 16 years old.
I am interested but very... Nervous? Anxious? Afraid maybe. I don't know enough of the negative side effects and really need to do some research. I have a very superficial understanding atm.
Mostly I was nervous about people noticing that I’m trans. I really thought that I would look like a super masculine guy but with big breasts. Eventually I got to a point where I didn’t care what I looked like, I just needed to try transitioning. Luckily things turned out well for me in terms of appearance, but you know, it could’ve been better if I started when I first knew I was trans.
At the time, my mental health was pretty poor, so I didn’t really care about side effects (fortunately I’m doing a lot better now).
You women are really starting to sell me on hormones, Holy shit! One of my biggest concerns is what about body hair? I'm a fuckin bear right now, would that just stop, or does it require full body electrolysis?
In time it thins; but never stops. Body hair is a burden among transfems, but don't let that be what stops you. Honestly, if you're considering HRT to such a degree, it's well worth trying. I can't describe the mental clarity I experienced within the first week.
Mine stopped. My body hair just went away with HRT.
It's a roll of the dice of course. You can't guarantee that it will go away, but it is possible!
It's just so thick and continuous, head to tow 😓 definitely disheartening.
Almost literally painfully disappointing to hear.
Body hair can disappear on HRT. You can't rely on it going away, but it sometimes does
This was my experience
That's good to hear it does happen sometimes, but uh, I am working with a lot more than that unfortunately
Ultimately, you can't really know what will happen until it happens. It's a roll of the dice :)
Makes sense to half my brain, but the autistic side is like "I need to know what will happen first!"
Gods,the though of chest hair on breasts... 🤢
Other than that, landing androgynously nonbinary is an option? I guess?
Oh, don't sweat that. There's a lot of different ways of dealing with it. Waxing, shaving, laser, electrolysis...
Only if you're non binary...
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3 months ago I didn't give being cis a second thought 😅 who knows really. I do have a book about identity I really need to work through though.
Heh, yeah. There is no easy road here when suddenly you'll have all the answers. But ultimately, the whole point of the journey is to give yourself permission to find who you are, however long that takes :)
Insightful and helpful as always Ada 😊
"giving yourself permission" I have been realizing that, slowly I'm finding stuff I'm ok with or like and only able to come to the conclusion that I just wasn't allowing myself to whatever.
My patchy back hair stopped after 16'ish months. My body hair stopped and/or thinned to where its either translucent, villous hair on my tummy or a few dark hairs across my breasts.
The only place currently needing electrolysis is my face and later the groin area for GRS consideration.