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How do you get over the fact that not everyone will like you? (lemmy.ca)

submitted 2 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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It’s obvious and you would be deluded into thinking everyone you interact with likes you.

But how do you feel it?

Context: I’m a course instructor and I get direct reviews on my lessons and around 95% of feedback is positive to very positive.

There’s less than 5% of my reviews that have real negative and non-constructive comments. Things like accusations of being incompetent or unprepared or full of shit, etc. They mention times I had technical difficulties or made a mistake (like giving an incorrect response)

Just by the numbers alone this is a very small minority overall. Yet these comments stick in my head and make me doubt my abilities.

So what are your strategies or ways you drown out this stuff?

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

around 95% of feedback is positive to very positive.

Don't focus on the ones that don't like you. Focus on the ones that do. Unless there is something constructive in the negative reviews, you can safely ignore them.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

I just stopped caring. Why should it matter if people like me? Life is a very short, fleeting construct. Wasting time worrying about what some other human thinks of me makes literally no difference in the grand cosmos. I’d rather put my energy toward something interesting.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

work on your self-confidence and self esteem. go check a psychologist.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

I prefer to be liked as opposed to being disliked but I take pride when certain people dislike me

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

These 5% of negative reviews probably has nothing to do with you. There's always a small amount of people unhappy for random or unrelated reasons (broke up with boy/girlfriend, car broke, etc) and who would write negative reviews no matter what. It's possible they cannot dissociate the course from other things happening in their life. They just happened to be unhappy at that time, and felt like leaving a nasty review.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Are you fucking serious? Did you never get bullied in school as a kid or something? Are you that privileged? What the fuck.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Yep 100% serious. I was bullied quite a bit in school so I’m not sure how you’re drawing this conclusion. Sorry you’re upset though.

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