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This is kind of a tangent but I've always had mixed feelings about his essay about not being gay in a time where there were a ton of rumors around the topic, which relates I think to his brand of masculinity.
Essentially his point was that if he was gay he would be the most out and loud person about it so that others could feel safe too do the same, and it always stuck me as an easy thing to say.
But now that I'm out I find it kinda inspiring since I DO get to be that out and loud queer and I would lie if I said his words didn't inspire that.
So. Well played I guess Henry.
Wanting to be out and loud to make others feel safe to do so is 100% non-toxic masculinity. Being strong and using your strength to help others is an uplifting masculine trait. The protector of the tribe.