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A community for transfeminine people and experiences.

This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.

Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.

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Some helpful links:

The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.

Support Hotlines:

The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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I have stopped trying to pass for cis. Now I just pass for "someone cis people try staunchly and vehemently not to look at," and it's nice. (lemmy.world)

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I've been talking a lot in therapy recently about how "passing" is becoming a moot concept. That used to be the goal of transition back in my day (2000's) but nowadays people are just free to pursue whatever their ideal self is regardless of what society deems as "passing". I struggled with this concept for a long time - I thought, "but what if the people around me know I'm Trans?" and he has been challenging me to question "Why would it matter?". Sure there's the obvious concerns of bigotry and violence, but in a safe space such as work or friendship, does it really make a difference?

The times that I can slip into that mindset of not caring whether I pass are the most free I've felt in decades. I hope all my transbros and sisters can achieve that.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

As long as work is a safe space, it’s moot indeed. However, since work is tied to food and shelter in this absolute fucking bullshit hellscape boring-ass dystopia, being trans can fuck people up out of house and food.

Sorry, let my opinions get the better of me for a moment.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 weeks ago

Nah that's absolutely valid. I feel lucky to be in a workplace with a union, a gay CEO, and a prominent LGBTQ club that ensures every employee has what they need to succeed. Earlier this year I pointed out that the complimentary gym doesn't have gender neutral showers and within a week met with the head of the legal dept and head of facilities to figure out how to implement one.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm delighted to read you consider work to be a safe place. I hope that is the norm for everyone.

I imagine for most it's not true though.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 weeks ago

100%. I've worked in many places where I had to hide, and so I think I'm still stuck in that mindset.