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How to get over not having a good college experience? (slrpnk.net)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm going into my last year of college and I kinda felt like I did college wrong. Like, my grades are good but everything else about college I failed at. Like socially and stuff, after 4 years I barely know anybody. I commuted(to avoid debt, and did so successfully) so maybe that's part of my problem.

But I feel college was supposed to be special time in your life and to me it has been indifferent. :/Thoughts?

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I did the same thing in university. I ate, slept (usually), avoided unnecessary expenses, and focused on my grades. One day I woke up with a degree. Then another.

Then I got a job, where I largely didn't socialize and just focused on doing good work, and avoiding unnecessary expenses. Then I immigrated to another country, and kept the same habits. Then I started a company, again with the same habits.

One of the valuable things in this world is the ability to focus. There is nothing wrong with you.

Be regular and orderly in your life, so that you may be violent and original in your work.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Are you happy today and were you happy then?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

My nature is to prioritize knowledge over happiness. That being said, I am also relatively happy right now, and was then too.

There was the whole part in the middle where I immigrated to a new country. That was properly hard. I wasn't particularly happy during the first half decade of that.