this post was submitted on 03 Aug 2023
84 points (88.2% liked)

Men's Liberation

1845 readers
1 users here now

This community is first and foremost a feminist community for men and masc people, but it is also a place to talk about men’s issues with a particular focus on intersectionality.


Rules

Everybody is welcome, but this is primarily a space for men and masc people


Non-masculine perspectives are incredibly important in making sure that the lived experiences of others are present in discussions on masculinity, but please remember that this is a space to discuss issues pertaining to men and masc individuals. Be kind, open-minded, and take care that you aren't talking over men expressing their own lived experiences.



Be productive


Be proactive in forming a productive discussion. Constructive criticism of our community is fine, but if you mainly criticize feminism or other people's efforts to solve gender issues, your post/comment will be removed.

Keep the following guidelines in mind when posting:

  • Build upon the OP
  • Discuss concepts rather than semantics
  • No low effort comments
  • No personal attacks


Assume good faith


Do not call other submitters' personal experiences into question.



No bigotry


Slurs, hate speech, and negative stereotyping towards marginalized groups will not be tolerated.



No brigading


Do not participate if you have been linked to this discussion from elsewhere. Similarly, links to elsewhere on the threadiverse must promote constructive discussion of men’s issues.



Recommended Reading

Related Communities

[email protected]
[email protected]
[email protected]


founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
 

cross-posted from: https://lemm.ee/post/2911882

For some women in China, "Barbie" is more than just a movie — it's also a litmus test for their partner's views on feminism and patriarchy.

The movie has prompted intense social media discussion online, media outlets Sixth Tone and the China Project reported this week, prompting women to discuss their own dating experiences.

One user on the Chinese social media platform Xiaohongshu — a photo-sharing site similar to Instagram that's mostly used by Gen Z women — even shared a guide on Monday for how women can test their boyfriends based on their reaction to the film.

According to the guide, if a man shows hatred for "Barbie" and slams female directors after they leave the theatre, then this man is "stingy" and a "toxic chauvinist," according to Insider's translation of the post. Conversely, if a man understands even half of the movie's themes, "then he is likely a normal guy with normal values and stable emotions," the user wrote.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

No one is testing it on their partner every week.

Some men in the dating world will do anything to get a date, including claiming to be a feminist because being treated like a person appeals to women these days. An actual feminist will watch the movie and understand it's themes of how the patriarchy hurts everyone, including Ken. Someone who is misogynist in feminist clothing will watch it and say the movie is just bashing men.

Watching the movie together will out these people.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Also it will weed out people who can't accept criticism of their gender. Needing to tip-toe around man-child egos sounds pretty exhausting.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

The movie has two kinds of men. The stupid men on the management floor who do what they are told and fall over each other all the time and the gullible kens who fall for every barbie the moment they give them attention. I wouldn't agree that the movie bashes men but portrais them as stupid and they need to be told what to do. Either by men in power (who are stupid aswell) or women.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

It's not as simple as portraying them as stupid. It's portraying these men as victims of the patriarchy. Often times they are overconfident to their own detriment due to the circumstances they grew up in. It's not about how 'men are stupid', it's about how men in power were conditioned to dismiss women at their own expense. The movie shows how by taking a moment to learn and empathize with women's struggles, they come to learn that healthy masculinity isn't defined by how they are views by women's it's by how they view themselves. This is what Ken does at the end. He escapes the kencel pit and learns to value himself for who he is and his own interest instead of relying on female attention to define his worth.

None of this is something that the men did because they are 'stupid'. It's because of patriarchal conditioning, something that all of us are subjected to in this day and age.