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haha say no more. I'm from Toronto and have never been to the Appalachians (rural or not), but uh... that area of America is well known. Infamous, even. I'm a bit surprised there's a discernible gay community there at all. There's a lot of "parTying" here too (I see what you did there), not my vibe at all. As someone from outside of America looking in (because we are perpetually bombarded with American culture) it seems like the vast majority of the country is anti-intellectual. Which is of course by design, it's much easier to stage an authoritarian coup if the majority is too dumbed down to think critically and fight it. Plus starve the beast, wedge the class divide further, and you have masses of people fighting each other for crumbs. I suspect your life would be greatly improved if you were able to get the hell out of there (of course that is easier said than done). I can't imagine it's going to get much better there anytime soon.
Wow, imagine waiting 10 years to be with a meth dealer. That man clearly has some serious issues. And the gall to assume that someone would agree to be in a long-term relationship with an expiry date. Plus if things end up going really well, and he doesn't want to wait for his meth-man anymore and just be fully committed to you, you then have a potentially angry ex who just got out of jail, expecting his guy to still be waiting for him. No matter which way that would go it would be absurdly messy.
What in the fuck? If something like that happened here it would be front page news. But the way you describe it, and the fact that it has a colloquial term, makes it seem like it's a common occurrence? That's fucked up to the point that I wouldn't be surprised if you could apply for asylum in Canada because of it.
Okay, with all of that in mind I'd probably also be hesitant to accept and integrate friends into my life, and would have a very difficult time dating.
It's not the most common thing in the world, and to be honest with you, the majority of people around here don't hate the gays anymore (they've moved on to the trans!), but yeah, it happens. It just generally isn't reported as being motivated by their sexual orientation. It's just a random attack, or drug related, or whatever.
Jesus, I'd move to Canada in a heart beat. Sadly, I'm one of those working poor you hear about. No marketable skill that would let me. I know y'all have your own set of problems, but to be somewhere I wouldn't have to worry about healthcare? Dream come true. Feel like marrying a southern neighbo(u)r for a few years? Just long enough to get me in. Lol.
Where's my ring?!
Also, we're all working poor. Wealth has transferred to the hands of a few. Of course some of us have slightly more than others, but from the perspective of those with all the wealth we're all just living on pennies.
I'm sure you have SOME kind of skills that could be marketable if massaged the right way, no?
32, halfway through a bachelor's in creative writing, mainly worked as a security guard (read receptionist), cashier, and inbound call centers. :/
But fr, how does one woo a Canadian for citizenship? Teach me, and I promise I will make the daily offering to Tim Horton and eat the ritual poutine at least once weekly!