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Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Scared-Ad-7678 on 2023-06-20 18:12:33+00:00.


TLDR: my friend who booked the airBnB got into a fight with her boyfriend, wouldn’t let us back into the AirBnB for the trip and expected us to still pay half of it

My friend (f24 “Jill”) and myself (f20) decided to take a small beach vacation. Just staying one night. We invited our fiancé‘s (both m27)

The agreement was that my friend Jill would book the Airbnb and all of that, and at the end of the trip my fiancé and I will send her all of the money involved in our portion of the trip. My fiancé and myself didn’t mind this, since we both know she is very particular about planning

The first day of the trip we were all going to drive directly to the beach, then head to the Airbnb later on to check in

For some context Jill has some sort of mental disorder. We don’t know what it is, but the second she is upset about anything she will throw a giant tantrum until she gets her way. So imagine my surprise when I’m enjoying the day at the beach, turn around, and there is Jill shouting at her fiancé’s face

After calming her down she finally told us what made her react that way. She saw him looking at another woman

After all talking it out we decided it would be best if they talked things out privately. They went back to the AirBnB while my fiancé and I stayed at the beach waiting for them to text or call to come join them(which was our agreement). We waited until about 7pm(4hours after they left)before calling them ourselves. Jill picked up and said “WHAT?” we asked if we could come back to the airBnB and she hung up on me. We called her fiancé, he picked up after a few minutes of calling and apologized, letting us know he didn’t think heading back there would be the best idea

We got a hotel for the night. We called back in the morning to ask if we were still on for our other activities, they needed up going back home

My friend sent me a zelle request for half of the AirBnB price this morning. I reminded her my fiancé and I never even got to step foot into it. Her argument was since we agreed to pay half of it before hand it doesn’t matter that we didn’t stay in it, because she only agree on the basis she would pay half it it, not all. I disagree, I’m not paying a few hundred for something I didn’t even get to use! On top of what we payed for our own hotel? No

My fiancé agrees with me that we don’t owe her anything, but he thinks we should just pay the money to get over it. I would normally agree, but I don’t want this to be a gateway. I don’t want her in the future to think she can pull the same stunt and have us pay for her poor decisions.

Aita for not paying for the AirBnB I never got to use?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Your "friend" is an asshole