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How can I help someone with a gambling problem? (lemmy.ca)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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My neighbour (40/m) ("N") confided that his recently retired father (70/m) ("G") has started going to the casino twice a day (all day but he comes home for dinner).

G's losses affect the food they eat (multi generational household).

N doesn't really know what to do. I'm not so concerned for N, moreso his mother/G's wife.

It's not my business but, when I was a kid my boyscout leader committed suicide after gambling away his house so I'm pretty sensitive to this sort of thing. I'd like to help if I can.

Any advice?

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Difficult without more detail.

Does G understand the damage they are doing or are they still in denial?

How much control does G's wife have over the household finances?

G needs to want help. And an important means of helping is to prevent him having access to most of his cash. If he can be persuaded to sign over control over his bank accounts, or pay his pension into his wife's account as soon as he receives it, and get a weekly allowance in return, that might help with the impulse control.

But he'd have to want the help. So the first step is getting him to admit that he has a problem.

It may also be worth the family consulting a solicitor. If he's in danger of gambling away the house, there may be legal steps you can take. Including having the casino bar him (but this may depend on where you are, and how many casinos he has access to).

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Thanks, yeah when I spoke to my neighbour I got the impression that they do have something like that set up. But I'll try to get them to understand the importance of making it difficult to reverse or work around.