Lemmy Dadsplain

820 readers

1 users here now

Community for exeriences, insights, and camaraderie relating to fatherhood. Or just dad jokes.

founded 1 year ago

MODERATORS

[email protected]

Any dads here lonely? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

19 comments fedilink hide all child comments

I have young kids and I feel like I've pretty much become isolated from my friends. The ones that have kids live out of state. My best friends don't have kids so they usually come to me, but they also have their own lives so I don't want to bother them. And I can't really do my hobbies. I knew it would be hard with young kids, but I didn't realize it would be so lonely and without an outlet.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

My friend group fractured and faded because of the divorce, and I was in no shape to function beyond keeping my job. I got the kids back full time after 2 years of absolutely bleak desolation. I focused on the kids and job for the next 10 years. Right now I'm crawling out my isolation a bit, but only a bit. My kids are now grumpy teenagers who can mostly take care of themselves, and I'm left wondering "what now?".

I dunno. Some of the kids activities allowed a bit of socialization around the fringe, but I'm gun shy to the point of not being very willing to engage. Dating probably isn't an option, I've seen things that can't be unseen. I like my work friends a lot, but work friends aren't the same as personal friends. I'm not sure what happens from this point, but I've got options if I have the effort and willingness to pursue them. If.