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How to meet people (lemmy.world)
submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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I'm 41F. I was married but separated 8 years ago. I was still young but was very traumatized and never really wanted another relationship. Lately I've been feeling a little lonely and would like to meet some new people but I moved and don't have many friends here and the ones I have are younger and do younger people things (like going out at night. I'm too old for that lol). I wanted to meet some people my age, friends or dates, but almost everyone is married. I do cooking and French classes but again, only young people do that and I'm the "odd old lady". I think people past 40 don't really have hobbies or money to spend on them. I'm overweight so I can't really use apps, and to be honest don't really want. So how a single woman without kids (can't have it) meet people?! Or do I just give up?! lol

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[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago (2 children)

lol! I meant I don't have the patience for young drunk people anymore. I only know a couple of 28yo here and went out with them one night... guess who was puked on? lol

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I was done with partying when I was in my twenties, honestly. It doesn't give me anything. I can't hear people talking, we always lose each other in the crowd, it's stuffy, people are obnoxious when drunk, etc etc etc, blech.

I much prefer a social thing at someone's house with at most like 5-8 people, maximum. Preferably max 4. Then everyone can be heard, get a chance to speak, not too loud, bathroom close at hand, cheaper drinks that don't empty your pockets, access to more fun things not available in a club/restaurant like video/board games, movies, etc etc etc.

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

access to more fun things not available in a club/restaurant like video/board games, movies, etc etc etc.

Beercades exist, I've been in a bar/brewery that had a collection of board games to borrow, etc. Also, karaoke at hole-in-the-wall Japanese and Korean places is super fun.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

Still those other problems, though...

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Drink more, be the puker.

Also, in re: being overweight and not being able to use apps... I'd strongly suggest you work on changing that now. The longer you wait, the harder it's going to be, and being overweight makes being old really hard. Hard as in, knee, hip, and back damage. Trust me when I say that getting into a solid diet and workout plan is not fun, but being fit and losing weight is much easier than dealing with the long term consequences.

I took a long break during the pandemic because my gym refused any safety measures (shockingly, a lot of people died from covid-19 in my town /s), and getting back to the kind of levels of fitness I had in 2018 is hard and painful.