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I've been on HRT for 3 years, and I really have lost all hope that I will ever look like a girl or be gendered correctly or even just be treated with dignity. I'm really ugly and honestly I can tell, people lie and say well it's your personality that matters. It's really not that hard to see, and I am wondering if there is a point to spending 120 dollars a month, just for peace of mind.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (4 children)

I understand how deeply this affects you. I know this advice has been given to you many times, but these struggles are affecting your mental health. You need a combined approach of lifestyle changes and mental health growth to overcome this.

I used to feel similarly and what helped me was bottom surgery. Dysphoria over my anatomy made it very hard for me to feel authentically me. Not that this is true for you or anyone else. Just that it wasn't my jaw that was the cause at the end of the day, or my brow ridge or my cheekbones or how wide my shoulders are. It was just that I couldn't see anything beyond my own dysphoria.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (3 children)

I've seen you, you have had much better results than I have had, I might have bad genetics and just look ugly. This isn't my fault but the reality I live in

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 months ago (2 children)

I was in no way dismissing the reality you live in, or your feelings about your body and your appearance. Only providing my own feelings about my body and my appearance and how those feelings have changed over time.

I have never posted a picture of myself on this platform and I will not be doing that, so I'm not sure how you have seen me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

You added me on discord I think

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago

I haven't added anyone from Lemmy on discord. You must be mistaking me for someone else.