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[–] Mittens_meow 15 points 6 months ago (5 children)

Why do people assume that everyone has friends or family that can help them out with things. I have a 90yo grandma, an estranged family, and a few casual friends that aren’t close enough to help out.

Why is life such a bitch all the time, I seem to be playing on “fuck you” level of difficulty.

[–] Seagoon_ 10 points 6 months ago

There was a time when I was living in Europe and in a pretty bad situation. A husband who was in trouble ( again ) , a young daughter, no family, no friends.

I realised society has things in place to help people just like me, people who are alone. So I used the social services that were set up to help me and they helped me as much as they could.

Long term, that understanding of how our society works really helped me a lot.

So use every single free service you can use. Government, charity, church. It's meant for you.

So many hugs, you are not alone.

[–] Duenan 10 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I understand how you feel sadly :(

Just a fuck you and fuck you day after day with no signs of it ending and with no help available.

[–] Mittens_meow 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)

That’s exactly it. Sorry you’re stuck in this too.

[–] Seagoon_ 2 points 6 months ago

change often happens very very slowly

so many hugs

I wish things were easier for you.

[–] dumblederp 7 points 6 months ago

We're a group of people who are friendly who might be able to help if there was something specific?

[–] Gibsonisafluffybutt 6 points 6 months ago

I understand how you feel ❤️

[–] SituationCake 4 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

You’re not alone in this, I often find myself in this situation too. It’s shitty but I can usually find an alternate way to do things if I think it through. It may not but the fastest or cheapest but it is what it is.

I think with more people being single, people having fewer or no children, less community groups, this situation is becoming more common and hopefully things can adjust so that people can be more independent when they need to. Doesn’t help right now though, of course.