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[–] [email protected] 69 points 3 months ago (11 children)

“I don’t want to sleep with you.”
is often
“I don’t want you to exist.”

[–] [email protected] 53 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Sometimes it’s “I want to sleep with you, but I don’t want to want to sleep with you.”

[–] [email protected] 36 points 3 months ago

Or "I want to sleep with you but I'd rather you die than have anyone find out."

[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

But not always. I'm absolutely behind the point you're making about some people, but if someone wants you dead, it's usually not subtle.

I've met people who use this logic to turn absolutely vicious towards people who have otherwise shown nothing but kindness.

Smoking is an instant nope for me, and for that I've had some girls react like I think smoking makes a person abhorrent and undeserving of love.

(No, I'm not saying trans people can "quit" being trans the way smokers can quit smoking. Just saying that even if a piece of logic is valid, it should be applied with care.)

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

But smokers are abhorrent and nobody deserves love

[–] [email protected] 16 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Smokers are victims of marketing.

Everybody needs love, if only from themselves.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, absolutely, very much so, but I don't want to kiss or sleep with smokers, and that's OK.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Agreed, I was the guy making that point in the first place.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 months ago

Everyone deserves love. Nobody is entitled to love.

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[–] [email protected] 35 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

The point of the meme isn't about whether you personally would want to sleep with someone who is trans, and whether that makes you a good person or not, its about how the first, second, and last thing a lot of people think about wrt trans people is whether they are fuckable or not. Its not good to objectify people, if you do it is transphobic/sexist/racist/whatever dehumanizing. But if you see trans people as people, and respect their gender, their right to express themselves openly even if you aren't sexually attracted to them, then this meme will never be a problem for you. And if you feel personally attacked by this meme, try and figure out why, because it's probably not about you. Don't be a creep isn't that complicated, folks

[–] [email protected] 26 points 3 months ago (1 children)

This post is massive chaser erasure.

We need more chaser erasure.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Chaser: someone who fetishizes trans or other non hetero-normative people and pursues them as sexual objects.

Erasure refers to the deliberate or unintentional removal, omission, or invalidation of LGBTQIA+(though it can apply to any marginalized group really) identities, histories, and contributions from cultural, social, and institutional recognition.

Op is joking this post is ‘chaser erasure’ because it does not depict someone exhibiting that behavior and instead shows someone claiming they do not want to sleep with trans people.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 3 months ago (3 children)

I like women, I sleep with cis women. I do not want to sleep with trans women. By my personal assessment I'm somewhat transphobic and need to work on that.

Checkmate, lemmy.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Everybody has their preferences and we often make fun of it.

  • She wants a wealthy partner, she's a golddigger
  • he wants a gf with big tits - mommy issues
  • he doesn't want a gf with a penis, he's a big piece of transphobic shit

See, it's just the way we communicate

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Maybe you are, but do you feel oppressed?

We've all got biases, invisible or no that we're working on, like you said. Better to know them though

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 months ago (11 children)

NGL im super into tomboys and genderfluid people. But the idea of having sex with someone who has a penis is off-putting to me. Idk

[–] [email protected] 23 points 3 months ago

That just means you have a sexual preference lol

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Weird how they feel the need to announce it instead of just having it. Almost like announcing it serves a social function, and it is obvious if you frame the same phenomenon through another bias:

"I only sleep with blond haired blue eyed white women"

Also fuck you have no idea how often I hear something about how trans women are unfuckable after turning a guy down.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 months ago

Exactly - if you don't want to date a trans person don't. If someone conceals it, that's not an issue with them being trans, that's an issue with them being dishonest. It's ok to dislike dishonest people.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I've always contended that you shouldn't care about what turns someone on unless you wanna fuck em.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 months ago (2 children)

excluding liking kids or animals. and relatives or nonconsenting people if relevant

[–] [email protected] 19 points 3 months ago (1 children)

What goes on between two or more non related consenting adults is no ones business but their own.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I just genuinely don't care what people do in their bedroom.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Cut to me assembling a dirty bomb on my quilt

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

OMG dude, no, stop! At least put down a tarp or something.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

You don't use Le Creuset? Swipe left!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

The kitchen is an abomination free zone.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (2 children)

All that is about consent. Except the relatives thing. Which is gross but not necessarily my business

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

[Laughs in pansexual]

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