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Like I got another (5th) session of laser on my face and I look like I have really thick beard shadow, I know it's temporary but I have a hard time looking into the mirror... Sadly shaving doesn't do anything because the hair is under the skin. :( It's a tough week but I've had worse <3

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 days ago

Yeah, some of my most acute dysphoric moments happened looking in the mirror after facial laser.

I think using foundation helped me at the time, if you are really red some mica green color correction under can help too.

I also try to ensure I can stay home and not have any important social events for a week or two after the appointment. My dysphoria is so much worse with all those dark hairs, and so so so much better after they fall out.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 days ago (1 children)

πŸ˜– facial hair why do you have to be so stubborn!?!?

I hope time passes swiftly and you're as soft as you like before you know it!!

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I'm right there too. At first, I had big areas dropping out, and the bad shadow didn't bother me as much because I was excited to see progress the following week. But lately I'm not seeing much progress, and it's still thick and dark in places, so it feels like I've plateaued a bit. I'll probably eventually switch to electrolysis, but it feels too early still. I'm trying to learn to accept myself. It's not an overnight thing, it's a transition, and I want to love myself even in my intermediate forms. But it isn't always easy.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 days ago

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Yes, that feeling like nothing is happening is dreadful...

It's going to get better! :)

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 days ago (1 children)

It's two weeks or so for me. Currently going through that again. Actually in Juli it was all gone, and it was such a great relief. Then it came back with a vengeance. So I started boymoding and not using makeup. Big mistake. It's better to just accept it and continue being yourself. What a nightmare!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 days ago

I'm still boymoding partially because of my beard, I hope it will be gone soon !

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 days ago (1 children)

You seem to already know this, but the pain is temporary and the dysphoria is temporary. At least this time it's serving a larger goal and you'll feel way better about your face soon!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago

Yes πŸ«‚

I Hope I wont need laser soon, some men are still less hairy than I am and they want beard... I wish I could give them mine it made some jealous...

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Daww, sorry you’re feeling self conscious - sounds like you’re a strong person though, you got this! :)

My partner is about to go through the same, thanks for posting - seeing everyone here having similar experiences made me think maybe I’ll try to figure something out to make her feel girly after her session πŸ’œ

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago

Definitely do it helps more than you would think<333

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago

This broke me for a few weeks after my last session 😭Dysphoria was already bad that week. Technician and I decided to increase the strength of the laser - previous sessions maybe a pain level of 4, but the last one was like a 7. Face was so swollen and irritated... I didn't leave my place for over a week until everything calmed down and I was able to trim/shave. I hope your face and skin heals soon and those remaining hairs disappear 🩷

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