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Basically i hate my abusive siblings and i wish i can find any Communities that helps with these problems

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[–] [email protected] 40 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

It’s generally frowned on to solicit a hit-person in the fediverse, so as long as you just want some advice, I’m sure anyone—even us, can listen to you and put in our two cents. 😎

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Thank you for your simpthy

[–] [email protected] -3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I don't understand, what you mean.

Ranting is something we all need to have sometimes.
Hate-speech is another story.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I think the person you replied to are a making a joke, suggesting OP wants to solve his problems by hiring a hitman or an assassin. That's the joke. No hate speech involved in the joke. Then to emphasise it's just a joke, and that they don't mean to troll, they actually answer OPs question in a reasonable manner.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago

Thanks for clarifying.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago
[–] [email protected] 11 points 11 months ago

If you’d like professional help, https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/counsellors is a great place. Once you pick a country, you can filter on important characteristics. Many offer virtual appointments and sliding scales. Some offer groups you can join (cheaper and you can benefit from other’s similar experiences).

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Maybe I can help. What kinds of things do they do?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago (2 children)

They mock me for being inferior and weak

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (2 children)

If you let them know their bullying is getting to you, they'll only continue and increase their torment. You might need to grow a thick skin to get through living with them, but try not to let that harden you to the world too much in the process. They may be physically stronger than you, but that shouldn't stop you from becoming your best self. Not for them; but for yourself.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago

Agree and disagree. If they're bullying you and they don't know, then they need to know that they're causing harm. Else, letting them know makes it worse.

If it's the latter, the only way out that I can think of (other than waiting until you're free and can make your own life choices) is to instill fear into them. They need a wake-up call of some kind by letting them know that you can literally destroy their lives quickly and easily. Whatever that is, make sure it's legal and make sure that it's effective before you do it. I can't say what works for sure without knowing your siblings, so. Here are some bad ideas that'll probably get your head churning:

  • Get them into bad financial situations by calling their banks
  • Cutting off their internet for their laptop during an exam, but keeping it on their phone
  • Calling the cops on them while they're out doing something illegal
  • Getting a friend to intimidate them with genuinely scary messages that seems like "doxxing"

By the way, none of this is a replacement for a psychiatric medications, therapy, or abuse hotlines. These will be more helpful in dealing with trauma (which you almost certainly have) and uncontrollable emotions. Simply acting in revenge isn't going to solve all of your issues, but my hope is that they stop bothering you so you can focus on yourself and your own needs.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

but how can I find ways to stop Them I tried being nice to Them and that didn't work out

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

being boss jerks And not having any care for my mental health

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

That’s not very specific.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Oh sorry i meant they are really jerks that Thinks they are better than me but in reality they just massive wusies i ever tried pranking one of them by sharing her phone number on Reddit and then my account is banned there

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Sounds like you aren’t doing much to stop them except fuel the fire.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Yeah i could just break their bones Later

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Not if you’re “weak” 🤷‍♂️

[–] [email protected] -1 points 11 months ago

Maybe you can find something with this: https://lemmyverse.net/communities