I feel this in my soul. Same way, notice a cute girl a work don’t want to be the creepy guy at the office, see a cute girl working at the movie theatre, no this is her job, she doesn’t need that at work. This is why I’m single 😅
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Thank you for not being the annoying guy trying to hit on girls 🙂
The annoying thing is that the annoying guys are more likely to get a date, while they just go about their day. Not because they are better, or because their methods are good, but purely because they approach more people.
I hate making people feel uncomfortable (no matter their gender), so I always struggled finding "spontaneous" dates, or even dancing with strangers at a club/party.
The only thing that really worked for me was using dating apps, where both parties have implicitly indicated that they are looking for dates in general (because they're on the app) and explicitly indicated that they are interested in each other (by liking their profile, or whatever).
Although I've heard the apps have all gotten worse lately, I wouldn't really know, as I found someone on Tinder years ago, and now we're happily married.
I'll be honest, as long as you don't make it weird you can approach a lot of people be they're on the job or not. If they're on the job just ask them about the journey so far. Like, they're also human you can treat them as such.
Nah. Everyone I'm attracted to either better know it by my silence or well never be together
Wow, what a relief, I thought you were into me
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Ask once, be clean about it, look like a dork for a few minutes, if she says no, let it go and never mention it again.
The annoying creep is likely to do ask her out twice a week.
Theres no way to ask without looking weird, but the follow up is what distinguishes regular guys from creeps.
There's no need to even ask them out right away. Just having a casual conversation and making them speak of their interests can warm them to you.
Are they your coworker? Sigh at how needy clients are, tell how you want to have a break, ask what they want to do when they have them. Discuss details.
A cinema worker is harder, but you can play a dummy and ask them if they see the movies screened there and can vouch for some of them or if they can suggest some snack from a bar, to break the ice.
People like talking about themselves. All have hilarious stories to tell. One needs to make them open up and react in a supportive way. Looking up interviewers on youtube can get one a better idea of how it's done than these greesy pick-up artists. Genuinely enjoying a conversation rather than being hungry for a pussy\dick and making it all about yourself is a great start.
Great advice 10/10.
If you go in trying to bed them you’re likely going to crash and burn.
Just try to make them a friend it’s a win win win because if you hit it off then you get a friend, if the attraction is reciprocated you may get relationship, if they aren’t interested in you but see you as a good person they may try to set you up with a friend of theirs that is single.
Can’t lose with this method.
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Seing some cute girl at the bar "nope, she's probably here just to enjoy her drink"
See some cute girl waiting in your bed "nope, she probably just wants a nap"
To be fair, it’s ideal to not date your coworkers anyway.
Who comes up with this stuff. Date whoever you want, YOLO
Eh. It can kind of cause a lot of problems in the workplace, and not just for the people dating… Especially if somebody is the type to get jealous if you have to work with their partner on something, which is sadly not uncommon. If you’re mature and can deal with it… fine. But, frankly, there’s plenty of fish in the sea and it’s probably better to date outside of work (or at least your team) for everybody.
People say stuff like that but the thing is, work is where you spend most of your time. It's where you meet the most people, if you are going to find someone who you want to date it's quite likely it will be the place you spend most of your time.
Youre right, im gonna date your mum
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I've seen work relationships go very badly but I've also seen them go very well. I met my wife at work so it worked out great for me.
Best advice I can give is, if you want to date people you work with, make sure you're ok with quitting your job. If things go south it might come to that. Use good judgement. Don't date your boss or one of your subbordinates. That's a great way to get fired out of a canon.
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Nope. Ask flat out, don't be weird about it. You get one shot before there's any potential harassment, take it... Then accept the result
That's all there is to it
Okay so what if you're from one of the many countries where asking people out on dates isn't really a thing?
I assume the population in those countries is going down then because I don't understand how else you're supposed to do it?
You just hit them over the head with a rock
I won't pretend to be an expert on the matter since I'm very much alone, but in my experience it's something that happens more organically, through common interests and such. It's more of a process, less of a transaction.
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I sometimes think being an attractive girl must be both the best and the worst thing ever.
I believe the phrase I've seen was "an avalanche of not-asked-for dicks"
That seems pretty accurate.
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D- Demonstrate value by suggesting that you can afford a hospital stay
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She says “no” lol
"I have a boyfriend."
"He can drive you. Babe come help this..." looks you up and down "...man."
"well, so do i. what coincidence."
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Any time I even for a second think about what it would be like to not be married, I remember that even finding a date, let alone dating, in 2024 sounds exhausting, so I remind myself to be thankful for what I have. I'm sorry for those of you who struggle finding a long-term partner.
I’m in my fifties and divorced. I never liked approaching girls to ask for a number so the apps were a blessing. It took that whole insecure awkward walk out of the equation.
Now being a disposable thing that people are constantly trying to get a better upgrade on, that I hate.
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Just don't tbh
ik its a joke, but wouldnt that be more annoying?
You gotta drop a weight heavy enough to land in hospital rather than attract disgusted looks from the loud sound it makes... The teary pained face while asking for favors can't be that great a first impression.
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