Text: When you get through denial but the call of the void to cut all your hair is back
personally, i think hair length is not a gender thing. so that's my two cents
this post was submitted on 27 Jan 2024
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You're right, hair length isn't really a gender thing. On the other hand, hair length is totally a gender thing. But like not inherently? Yet it still is for sure. Fucking everything about gender be that way ๐ฎโ๐จ
It doesn't have to be, but it totally can be.
Yeah, gender stereotypes are kinda dumb. Especially the hair length thing, why is it seen as feminine to have long hair, or masculine to have short hair. Our hair grows at the same rate regardless of gender, and before scissors everyone just had long hair, so why is there such a focus on it anyway?
Probably because men stereotypically don't spend as much time on their appearance as women stereotypicallydo. Long hair takes significantly more effort than short hair, but can be styled more as well.
Hmm that is a good point, long hair certainly does take more effort to maintain and keep looking nice.
There a stage after denial?!
There is a cycle of acceptance, but that is more geared to those who receive bad news.
Those stages are denial, anger, depression, bargaining, and acceptance.
I wouldn't call the process of understanding oneself bad news, but I'm a non-egg.
but Iโm a non-egg.
Are you sure UwU
Fair question, as I have asked the same as others. I have had a long time to grow comfortable with myself. I have only had passing interest in the other side, and I would only be sad to no longer be myself.
I shave an undercut on one side these days when that feeling comes up, works a treat :)
Trough denial is a a good way to end up in the trough. It's a slippery slope!
Could it be possible that you might be genderfluid, even slightly?
I ask because with gender fluidity you might suddenly feel like a different gender and the things that felt affirming before stop feeling that way when it happens. I have genderfluid friends who have similar experiences to what you're having here.