I'm chaotic anxious. I don't have the energy or the resolve to be fully the second type but I have the energy to be anxious about not being better.
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I love how the top comments are complete opposite for the same reasons, lack of energy. Personally I'm so goddamned anxious changing the conversations 10 times a minute to try and distract people from how anxious I am. Also stroking my beard constantly, chewing nails to nubs and pacing around constantly
Omg I twril my mustache like I'm Snively Whiplash all the time for the same reason as well as stroking my beard.
Yes me too
How the fuck am I always both
Nested parentheses, I like your style.
gotta fight the urge to open a million recurring parenthesis
Right? I wish it were socially acceptable to use them all the time
Aren't you supposed to use brackets if that happens? {Like (this?)}
Your are supposed to use [], not {}
You use {} only when [] and () were already used {So[this (is)] how}
Ah yeah that's right. The funny part is I was looking for [] but couldn't find it on my phone
Ok new gamer tag name for me. Because I do love them
I transitioned from the first to the second over the course of adult life.
Absolutely "fuck it LMAO" type. I don't have the energy to do anxious, if I try something snaps, usually sooner than later, and takes out a bunch of things like a broken chain. My life is kind of a disaster.
I'm the type that sits quietly doing everything except the thing I should be doing, feeling anxious about that thing, and staying so quiet that people even forget I'm there.
Wow, me too.
I start the day as the latter, and turn into the former as I run out of energy and the mask comes off.
People constantly telling me i was so relaxed growing up. No shit, I avoid stressers like the plague, to the point my brain threw out my emotions in high school. Everything only started resurfacing when I became an adult and I couldn't avoid stressful stuff like being healthy and having to work and clean up after myself
Are you me?
Reading the Getting Things Done Method edition 2 I noticed the author seemed to have established excellent strategies for coping with both ADHD and mild megalomania brought on through a successful self-help writing career
whats his method?
My wife is the first time and I'm the second type. By our powers combined, we're barely functional!
I spent a lot of my life being the second, where my coping mechanism was drinking, after which I became the first.
Oh hell yeah, substance use is written all over the latter but even the fuck it lmao persona will hit the neurotypical brick wall from time to time. I'd still put all my chips on lmao and spin the wheel. 47 years of second guessing myself is enough.
Anxious coping mechanics here
Same, itβs like a tightly wound string around here. Pull too hard, and it all breaks loose. But it keeps up appearances.
I'm the third kind where I don't have it together and I am freaking out about it
Reminder that your mood, health and the orientation of the planets can cause you to be one or the other any given time.
I'm the latter.
Hey, I'm held together by more than anxious coping mechanism. Substance abuse isn't necessarily anxious.
My partner and I are both of those. She's the anxious one and I'm the "fuck it" one. It works out alright, she can get more done, and I can calm her down when it's not actually as important as she thinks it is.
My coworkers think Iβm the latter no matter how much I demonstrate Iβm the former