I would Google if you have a wargames store physically near you. If you do, go say hi, find out what sort of games they run, whether they do board game nights, etc.
In terms of books, my 2 fav series are the Soul Drinkers, which are books about how space marines are corrupted and their point of view, and Guant's Ghosts, a scrappy group of imperial guardsmen just trying to do their job and survive from one day to the next.
Games are more tricky to recommend because there's a lot of absolute trash out there. I've been having fun with Darktide lately, a 4-player coop FPS.