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Since a lot of women have started to call their female friends "girlfriends", I have to wonder how women with actual girlfriends have been dealing with this lol

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[–] [email protected] 39 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

“This is my wife” works real well

For my girlfriend, I mostly just correct people if they’re mistaken. “Oh we’re more than just friends” type statements.

Also fuck is the platonic use of girlfriend back? Dammit

[–] [email protected] 8 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Yeah, hate to break it to you, but it isn't even just women/girls using it for platonic friends. Men/boys are too.

Not too surprisingly, that hasn't happened with boyfriend that I've run across. Which is kinda fucked up when you consider what the difference in usage represents.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago (2 children)

My grandma talks like that but in my area in my generation it’s generally understood that [gender]friend is romantic and friend isn’t. If gender is relevant it’s “the [genders]”

That terminology is incredibly frustrating as a lesbian. Especially since it’s regularly used alongside calling my wife my friend despite me repeatedly referring to her as my wife

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago

I understand why this is frustrating and am not trying to take that from you, but thought you'd enjoy knowing that the last old lady who I confronted about calling my girlfriend as my girlfriend (in the platonic sense) was genuinely confused about my irritation, since "isn't that the best part of having a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend? That they're also your best friend? I always thought you two really got that part right."

It's some arethestraightsokay stuff (and happened in like 2004) but I thought it might give you a smile.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I heard that violently frenching in front of them would clear any misunderstanding, nuance or misinterpretation.

"Nope, Mildred, those ain't gals pals, for sure"

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Unfortunately it will just get us sexually harassed or disowned depending on the audience

[–] [email protected] -1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Does a casual "nice" count as sexual harassment?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It definitely will make me feel uncomfortable shoeing romantic affection towards my partner in front of you in the future

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Thanks for the input, honestly didnt expect a serious response.

I asked because my family is really weird. We're very... open? Sexual jokes are very common 'round these parts

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago

Yeah there are people who can pull it off, but because many men fetishize sapphicism it’s uncomfortable in general, especially since men do absolutely nothing for me and I’ve had guys get really brazen with hitting on me when they see me do gay stuff.

So yeah if there’s no doubt in my mind it’s a “get it girl” style nice, I’m cool with it but that’s a hard bar to cross.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Personally I've only ever heard "platonic boyfriends" when it was platonic

[–] [email protected] -3 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Hm... so she calls you her wife as well, correct 🤔?

[–] [email protected] 12 points 11 months ago (5 children)

What else would she call her..?

[–] [email protected] 12 points 11 months ago
[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago

Ghost busters!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago
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[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Our government even calls us wives

[–] [email protected] -1 points 11 months ago

IDK, just asking 🤷.