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Someone recently told me that they sometimes feel gaslighted around me because I effortlessly make them question their beliefs and feelings. Hearing that didn't sit well with me, especially since I've been pondering the question in the title for quite some time.

I've always been quite critical of myself and don't consider myself a very nice person. When I discover that someone doesn't enjoy being around me, I don't blame them one bit. It's not like I'm intentionally mean or abusive; quite the opposite, actually. I have very strong morals. However, this includes things like not lying, which means I always speak the truth, even if not everyone likes hearing it. I don't conform to many social norms expected of me.

Despite all of this, I have deep relationships with several people and especially the elderly and for example the parents of my past girlfriends have all liked me a lot. But I can't help but wonder why they don't see me as I see myself. I worry that I'm hiding the true me so well that people don't actually like me, but rather the facade I unknowingly maintain. Then again, a true psychopath probably wouldn't be second-guessing themselves in this manner.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

That isn't honesty, that is being a bully with an excuse. Those people tend to be inconsistent enough that it becomes clear they are not even being honest.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Agreed, but they call it honesty, so when someone says they’ve never encountered a single person who appreciates their honesty, it’s my first suspicion.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

That might reflect on you just as much as the people you're suspicious of. What I'm talking about is that someone can ask your honest opinion, you break it to them as gently as you can, and they are obviously crushed by it. There are other varieties of it too, but that's the one that sucks the most and illustrates that honesty is just not really what most people want if it's at all a difficult truth.

If you want to play the "I know you're a shitty person by one comment on the internet" game, go ahead.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Something being my first suspicion is quite different from it being a knowledge claim.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 8 months ago

Not sure why you needed to express it if there wasn't an implication