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I got a COVID infection a while ago that permanently disabled me pretty bad. Bedridden, unable to move much, etc.

The thing that really helped me was relaxing and listening to music. That’s what I spent my days doing as I couldn’t do much else. I became a real music nerd and just loved the bliss of hearing music.

A little later (two years). I got another COVID infection — I was taking very strong precautions, and couldn’t see anyone. It turns out I got it from my doctor. Anyways, this infection caused some brain damage which has caused me to mostly loose the ability to hear. And now I’m still mostly motionless alone in bed, but I haven’t even got the comfort of sound or music. Just a mostly silent (tinnitus filled) world.

I’m so scared of getting covid again. But mostly I miss the world and my old life. Being stuck alone in bed with only the internet for company sucks. People tend to be arseholes online. I can’t help but feel I got “natural selectioned”. Me and my wife were planning on having kids soon. Now I barely see her and I’m going to slowly die in a nursing home. There are specific genetic vulnerabilities to illnesses, and natural selection works with them (see what Europeans coming to America did). And I got fucked here. COVID was my end.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

I’m so sorry to hear that. I don’t really have any advice but you’ll be in my thoughts OP, I hope you get better

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

Fucking sucks but it was impactful to read your story. I’m guessing you’re properly deep in the supplement community, but if you want to chat about them lmk

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

This reminded me that Apple recently added a feature to iOS called Music Haptics that lets you feel the music on your iPhone. It's not the same of course but maybe it helps out a little.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Theres a thought. There are headphones that transfer music to vibrations that travel through the bones in your head as opposed to the ear canals. Might be worth looking into

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Did you get vaccinated? Please say you did, and that you weren't one of the dumb ones falling for all this bullshit.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

Dude, read the room.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

OP has lost their hearing, is bed-ridden, and has lost their future plans. And here you are kicking them while they’re down. There is absolutely nothing appropriate with anything you just said in your comment.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

If they fell for it, then they've effectively destroyed their own life. I'm not going to be sympathetic towards antivaxxers. The whole world worked as fast as possible to get people protected. If this person then rejected all of that work, all of that effort, and ended up like this? -- Then they did it to themselves.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You don’t have to be sympathetic. You also don’t have to be an asshole and rub it in. You know nothing about this person, and yet you’re so quick to pass judgement. I pity you more than I pity OP.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

You should probably pity OP more. They lost the genetic lottery on this one. I haven't had COVID. I've been actually harassed and bullied because of the protections I took.

So fuck antivaxxers.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

This isn’t about you.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

This is 100% inappropriate to ask. While I am also very pro-vaccine and frustrated at the anti-vaccine movement, you're talking to some who is grieving the loss of a major part of their life. Saying all this is on par with "Did your mom X with you" or "This wouldn't have happened if you didn't Y so much" to explain disabilities. No one owes you their medical history and shame on you for asking. You're fishing to put personal blame on to someone so you can get a sense of smug schadenfreude from another suffering. Let's say the answer is yes, are you truly here to do a victory lap?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Let's say the answer is yes, are you truly here to do a victory lap?

Yep. And if the answer is no, then I'll offer my condolences and probably do some research to see what opportunities for treatment they have available - so that I can help in the way I know best.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Yep.

Well that is just an outright cruelty. Fucking stop.

And if the answer is no, then I'll offer my condolences

Do that anyways.

probably do some research to see what opportunities for treatment they have available

Holy shit don't. This post isn't your personal call to action. OP's doctors know far more about their treatment than some rando online. OP is venting, not asking for your personal medical advice.

Please, try to understand what you are doing here is harmful, not help and learn how the disabled community is begging people to stop saying these things.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

You're speaking to a troll, by the way. This isn't new behaviour.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

what a smug piece of shit. not just because you want to gloat at another's suffering, but because you are fucking arrogant enough to this that you can help find a solution to a problem OP has had for years.

Do you really think that OP is that much of an idiot that it took them two years to find some random asshole on lemmy to Google shit for them?

You need to do some introspection, holy shit

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I have helped find solutions for lots of people's medical issues over the years, as I study molecular biology.

I've also found doctors often don't care to do this research themselves. You too can help; as someone who cares about this stuff often times a patient's best hope is a family-member who can suggest treatment paths for the doctor to look up themselves.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Doctors aren't infallable as you may think;

The irony of raging about anti vaxxers while using their talking points.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Anti-vaxxers don't trust researchers and their research.

I don't trust for-profit "doctors", who look at you as a pile of cash to extract money from.

While related to the healthcare industry, they are not one in the same.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

Yes. Is that a problem?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

The internet is a poor companion these days. I didn't even know that covid could do such things to you. That is awful. I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. Are you able to use hearing aids? They'll change your life for the better. Costco has pretty affordable top of the line hearing aids, respectively. Get an evaluation and find out!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

Nothing but feels for you friend, that's rough and I can't imagine what it must be like. I too am coming to grips with my own disabilities, a spine injury putting me into a wheelchair. Losing a sense on top of everything else you mentioned is horrific.

If I may be so bold, I found a lot of peace, zen and understanding in the book "What doesn't kill you". I recently finished and it was incredibly gratifying to read about how other people struggle with life changing medical events.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

There are corners of the Internet still out there where you can find some really great people to hang out with; like 70% of my friend group is people who all meet through online games. We get together in person weekly or so now but still regularly play games together and hang out. I know it's no replacement for all you've lost, but maybe playing games with friends could be some comfort? Or some other hobby or interest group that can be engaged with online?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

You have had a major loss.

I’m glad you are still with us to share this story. You wrote in such a clear and eloquent way; it’s clear you cared very much about us that you took the time to communicate effectively.

My father is currently in a nursing home (just for normal end of life stuff). He was a deadbeat most of my life and treated his health really poorly.

It’s cruel that he was able to live the way he did and live for so long, while you’ve done nothing to “earn” your maladies; yet, you’re both in a similar situation (except no one wants to go see him, because of him being a PoS for most of his life). You don’t seem like a deadbeat or a PoS, so as far as I’m concerned, you win.

I hope things turn around completely for you and you’re restored back to full health.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

That's just rotten luck. You feel like your life has ended, and I can see why. But it hasn't. There's more strength in you than you know, even still.

If you have a favorite song, have you tried going to a lyrics site and imagining the song as you read? It's not as good as the real thing, but maybe it's a way to keep those songs alive in your heart.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Knowing anything about it I have to ask.... would bone conducting headphones work?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

I would suspect they would not work. The damage from Covid appears to be neurological and bone conducting headphones only bypass the mechanical components of the ear.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

someone tells you major life altering loss and grief from two years ago, don't try to offer solutions to fix the problem.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I don’t know your circumstances, or what you’ve tried or can try, but you could look into cochlea implants.

And while nothing about this is ideal or easy, I hope you are able to find your way to heal and rebuild from this trauma. Grieve. You’ve lost a lot. But please don’t give up on yourself (or your wife) quite yet.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

Cochlear implants don't fix brain damage.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I got COVID related tinnitus, avoiding beans, and certain soy based oils helps slightly, but it's not consistent.

I stay healthy by doing painful amounts of exercise each day even if it feels like it's killing me. It often feels like dying, and sometimes makes me very depressed (all my energy going into it, and being unable to think clearly after). But pushing my exercise limits every day, taking at most one day a week off for rest/recovery has helped.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (4 children)

@[email protected] you need to get off the .world federation bubble (which blahaj is a part of).

Try Hexbear for a week. It doesn’t cost you anything, just take a look. You don’t have to stay if you don’t like it.

But something tells me you’re quickly going to understand why Lemmy has two major federation poles after checking it out.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

You think that covid has damaged their brain enough to turn them into a maoist? I doubt it.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

Sorry I’m sure your nice people but I don’t want authoritarian propaganda spam

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

what a bizarre plug. "grieving? try going to a middle school classroom!" the internet is indeed a cold place, man...

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

How is this relevant to the conversation?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (2 children)

It absolutely sucks that this happened to you, I would literary not wish your fate on anybody in the world. I won't use this to tell my own sob story, but have you tried getting into video games? Most have accessibility features. Get "Factorio" it basically runs on a potato and you will unironicaly forget what the sun looks like. Sound is not important either.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'd wish it on COVID deniers who think anyone who caught it and didn't die is "fine". They absolutely deserve that fate.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

Nah dog, as somebody who's experienced only a fraction of soul crushing loneliness and isolation, I wouldn't wish it on anybody. Nothing makes you feel less human.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Space Age is right around the corner. I'll emerge after winter.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

Just in time for the Project Zomboid B42 update, and its back to the cave.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

Covid was an ugly part of the world. Music was a beautiful part of the world.

is there are beauty left?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

A week after the government lifted mask mandates here in South Africa the lady who usually helped me at the local pharmacy was dead. She was immunocompromised, and it took just a week of people huffing their breath on her for her to catch COVID and die. Just like that.

I wear my mask religiously whenever I walk into any building. No one is getting COVID because of my criminal negligence.

But it's not just that. I also wear my mask because I don't believe people should be allowed to simply forget COVID and all the shitfuckery about our society that it exposed.

Sorry, I know this rant doesn't help you in any way.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

Likely not applicable if deafness is due to brain damage.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Some guy in a Fuck Trudeau shirt got on my bus the other day and started making shitty comments to me about wearing a mask. I had earbuds in so I just looked through him like he wasn't there, but it was scary. I'm so sorry OP. Did you get the first bout before vaccines?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

3 times vaccinated :/. Just got shit genes I guess.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

You poor thing, I'm so sorry.

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