Can we just restate this as: "A lot of society's problems could be avoided if parents actually put in effort to parent their children" ?

I would like to see people educated how to argue without getting personal. And how to communicate that you aren’t in a mood to argue right now, because you’re angry and wouldn’t listen.

• What healthy boundaries look like
• The importance of your own interests/activities/time
• How to survive limerence/infatuation without sacrificing yourself
• How to manage emotional responses without just tanking damage
• How to express anger without getting nasty/toxic
• How to recognise NPD / BPD before getting entangled

This isn't just an issue in terms of romantic relationships, or gender-specific.

We used to all be exposed to the same media and had common points of reference and interest. It was called water cooler discussion. Unless you're into sports, this doesn't really exist any more.

We used to share a more common set of customs. Schools used to have etiquette/finishing classes. Was a lot of it ultimately arbitrary and made up? Of course, but we were all taught the same things, and they became a common language. You knew to take off your hat/glasses when talking to me to show a level of courtesy and respect, and I knew you were showing respect when you did that. This also worked in terms of things like knowing when to adopt a formal tone with others... many people don't have a formal tone any more, let alone know how to use it.

Everyday life thrust us into more social interaction, too. You used to have to go to stores, talk to people. Even public transport and public spaces used to be a social experience before everyone buried themselves in their mobile phones and headphones. Now the majority of people left trying to interact with you in public are weirdos or trying to sell you something, so people assume anyone approaching you in public is a weirdo or trying to sell you something, suddenly it is taboo to even try to strike up a conversation with a stranger.

And modern outlets like social media encourage some of our worst tendencies. Everything escalates into outrage, tribal warfare, makes us really bad at self-moderation and letting things go.

The-way-things-were was never ideal for a minority of people, but the way things are is ideal for no one. I strongly believe even the innovations that are supposed to help a lot of minorities are hurting them to a degree, too. I fit into a couple of those minority categories myself, and have to force myself to go outside, to use manned checkouts, to put away my phone when outside, as while the alternatives may be easier in the short-term, in the long-term they are making me both physically and mentally less-resiliant.

Schools should formally teach a lot of basic life skills these days like budgeting, manners, cooking, hygiene, sex ed — because a lot of parents aren’t doing this anymore.

Relationships are discouraged through school, in favor of competition, so we can be more effectively exploited by the elites (and all hierarchical societies). That is by design. Healthy individuals with good relationships are harder to sell to and to exploit. It's relatively hard to convince someone who is satisfied with their life and image to buy something. It's a lot easier to convince them to instead seek emotional satisfaction through excessive buying (escapism). Each new item (or service) you get can temporarily fill the emotional void and provide a fleeting sense of excitement or comfort.

Things I wish they'd teach kids:

• Yoga (one of my niece's school teaches them basic yoga)

• breathing / meditation

• conflict resolution

• critical thinking skills / logic

• relationship skills eg knowing your self-worth, knowing how and when to say no, knowing about your own body and that it's inviolable. If my youngest niece doesn't want to give me a hug goodbye and her mum says "go on give your uncle a hug" I always make a point of saying it's fine, she doesn't have to hug anyone she doesn't want to

As you are talking a lot about men, I would say we need to talk about toxic masculinity. Which means basically antisocial, competetive, emotion-suppressing, "talk about things instead of feelings" traits.

Which also is a huge thing capitalism feeds. Noone gets admired for having a healthy relationship with their parents or a few very good friends, but for damn shoes or minicomputers with glass, cameras and sensors everywhere, nobody knew they needed a few decades ago.

So capitalism with ads everywhere and consumerism instead of real values is a huge factor.

If you dont have your own TV, you have to share. No own books, you need to go to the library. No own car, you share it with others.

This is so "uncomfortable", while it would make people meet lots of new friends. I always make nice accquaintances in the train.

We just toss people blindly into the mess that is human interaction and relationships and no one knows what to do anymore.

I mean, to be fair, that's kind of always been the case to some extent. Not that it's an excuse or a good thing to have, of course.

It is true that schools don't teach many or any life skills, and it's unfortunate. Schools should also teach budgeting and real day-to-day life stuff but they just don't.

Back in the 50s there was arranged marriages.

I'm guessing you're part of a different culture than the US since it wasn't common here at all, I've never heard of anyone being in an arranged marriage. I do agree with you though, that there needs to be peer and love relationships, communication, and life skills being taught. The issue right now is, the teachers are just trying to teach and survive themselves. It would be an education overhaul in the expanding knowledge direction.

I think people focus way too much on romantic relationships. And many seem to see them as their lazy ticket out of loneliness.

If you want to improve social skills and alleviate loneliness people have to start and grow healthy communities, friendships and family bonds.

Capitalist thinking has reached interpersonal relationships. Instead of seeking community, people focus on how to optimise their dating market strategies and such. That's pretty fucked up.

I think that's also the reason why people lack interpersonal bonds. Investing into communities, friendships, relationships doesn't fit into a world that is focused on linear progress and material gain. Applying this type of thinking (success, optimization, comparison, ...) seems to lead mostly to resentment.

But community is not something you can teach, I think. You can facilitate it by providing opportunities for community building. Like the so called third place and enough time for people to get together casually.

Ultimately it's something we inherit from generations before, though. And we only stray ever further from it. It's in our hands now to do it in our lifes, online and in our neighborhoods etc.

The part about gen Z men has been true for every generation’s men.

A lot of blind courage is also missing. People used to answer to a lot of blind requests in a way that demanded a leap of faith and an effort to establish their own character. It also had a healthy dose of just wait and see. These days people can weasel out of uninformed situations quite a lot. So, we lean to shallow decision models with fewer good intentions accordingly.

most Gen Z men are lack the social and communication skills to even enter a relationship

Interesting choice of words. I'd say it borders misandry.

I don't think that decrease in social skills of the younger generation influenced solely boys.

That being said it's definitely a greater issue for them, since they are expected to initiate and organize almost everything in the initial phase of relationship. Maybe that's what you meant.

What I've seen (in admittably limited experience) is a decrease of skills all over the board combined with lack of patience and will to improve together.

We do, that's what socializing at school is for.

"But I love Kristy, and nothing will change that". It's not a rational, teachable topic. Which is why we teach contraception instead of abstinence. Tack on teaching financial well-being if you wanna improve odds of healthy relationships.