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(original art by Herta Burbe)

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[–] [email protected] 139 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (6 children)

The people on the couch don't exist. It's an unrealistic expectation nobody actually has.

Edit: the unrealistic part is that they have so few corners to fit and they fit perfectly. It's more complicated than that.

[–] [email protected] 44 points 6 months ago

I don't think that's entirely true, but even if it is, they could be accurately interpreted as one's expectation of oneself.

Not a healthy expectation, but a real one.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 6 months ago (3 children)

I don't quite agree. Yes, it's not as pronounced as it is displayed here, but there's still definitely a difference in statistical compatibility amount. If you have a very unusual life situation, with a non-neurotypical mental structure, the amount of compatible partners gets smaller and smaller compared to people that have a more "common" (specifically not using the word normal here) setup going.

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I thought that was the point. Looking at other people and thinking "it looks so simple so why can't I..."

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago

There is nothing in the art that provides evidence for the interpretation of the “simple” couple being in his imagination. For all we know, that is how they exist in their true form.

But I suppose the point of artwork like this is to get us to talk about it and discuss various interpretations, so who am I to suggest only one way of viewing it.

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[–] [email protected] 59 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

Just recently moved and I don't have a roommate here yet. He's moving in at the end of the month. It's just me and my cat and I'm incredibly lonely. I'm lying in bed feeling like shit and depressed right now and she's on her lil bed attached to my bed because she might as well be a fuzzy shadow. Can honestly say I'd have killed myself without her because she's the only reason I'm not dead right now

[–] [email protected] 131 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago

Kitty being the real MVP

Hope you get a good roommate!

[–] [email protected] 50 points 6 months ago (4 children)
[–] [email protected] 17 points 6 months ago

From the look of it the dog fucks him.

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[–] [email protected] 44 points 6 months ago (1 children)

The notion of there being someone out there who matches you perfectly or completes you is bullshit. Relationships are complex things that require hard work and compromise if you want then to work.

This is some whiny, self-pity emo cringe and is frankly insulting to people who have made relationships work like the two on the couch who I guarantee you didn't just fit together easily without the aforementioned hard work and compromise.

Or it's just a comic about a fucked up dog.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 6 months ago

What counts is not so much how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility.

  • Leo Tolstoy
[–] [email protected] 36 points 6 months ago

Please don't the dog.

[–] [email protected] 35 points 6 months ago (1 children)

everyone out here stuck on fucking a dog. Or being fucked by a dog.

But no one out here is talking about the fact that a relationship is what you make it.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 months ago (1 children)

In this case they are making it about fucking that dog.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago

i mean yeah, that's one option you could choose. I guess.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 6 months ago

Looks like they also need to find a miniature Bactrian camel, among other things.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Soul mates are such nonsense. You're trying to tell me that out of what, 7 billion humans now, exactly one of them is my soulmate? Yeah no. Even if it was even a 1 in 1,000 chance the odds suck. You're gonna need to lower them expectations bub.

[–] [email protected] 39 points 6 months ago (4 children)

A lot of people don't realize relationships take work.

It's two people who click and both compromise.

When things get difficult you shouldn't stew in it. Don't cheat or rebel. Open your fucking mouth and talk to your partner!

Be open and honest with each other.
Be open to compromise (this means to meet each other halfway. Not cave in or only your way).

Only after talking things out should you both decide to make a major change like moving on (or even an open relationship).

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

both compromise

I think online dating is absolutely killing that part. When you have an "unlimited" buffet table in front of you why would you ever think you need to compromise at all?

It's one of the 2537251728 reasons I loath what online dating has become... You aren't searching for someone you're swiping for someone and there's always that next swipe that could be "the perfect one" so you pass up the people who have one or two minor insignificant things, hoping the next swipe will be 100% of what you want.

I've been ignored by people I could swear were my identical twin as far as personality and compatibility and I haven't the slightest idea why other than a bad picture on my end or something, hell maybe my initial message didn't read like it was written by Hemingway, I'll never know. All I know is I've read conversations about why people pass and some of the shit is absolutely insane...

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Don't crop out the artist.

This was clearly made by Herta Burbė, by the way.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago

Hey thanks for mentioning the artist, I found this online and didn't have any idea who it was, I'll update the description

[–] [email protected] 27 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Take the scissors and nail file and get to work, you lazy puzzle piece.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 6 months ago

Jigsaw. It's what the puzzles are named after, after all.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 6 months ago (1 children)

oh, so that's why ducks evolved weird

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I get what this is saying, but I also feel like you can work on yourself to make it easier to connect with others.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago

Definitely, at least when it comes to most people.

While everyone should do it in some capacity, working on yourself can only go so far if you struggle in social situations because of the symptoms of disorders like autism or ADHD. Sometimes the difficulty to connect stems not from a problem with what the person is doing or saying, but others' perception of it.

But of course, the types of people they're surrounded by can affect things a lot, too, especially when there are differences in background, culture, or belief.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 6 months ago (4 children)

Wow.. This looks like the cracker I found yesterday that I compared to Mac Tonight.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Now he just needs to find pac man, a ball, some sort of lizard, a handgun, and a few other odds and ends to fill him out.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 months ago

Don't we all....

[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 months ago (1 children)

so mr jigsaw here is gonna fuck the dog?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Imagine thinking that you need to fuck something for it to be your soul mate smh

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago

They're still trying to fill that pacman-shaped hole in their cranium.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

That polyamorous friend is gonna get you in a mess of trouble again

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 months ago (4 children)

So this dude had multiple pieces missing. Is he planning on having a haram with the missing parts, or is this guy just old school Mormon over here?

[–] [email protected] 16 points 6 months ago (1 children)

that's a DOG. He needs a lot of pets!!

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 months ago

Even without a polyamorous relationship angle, there's something that resonates about the comic. It's hard to expect one single person to fulfill every need you may have. Sure, it happens, but I imagine it's far more rare than we'd like to believe.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago

harem* although Haram works pretty well too!

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 months ago

I just want to point out that their mouths do not line up. That is all.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago

Life is complex. Being compatible just requires a partial match. It's sweet that a piece of him matches up well with another life.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago

Hoping to meet Pac-Man and the Loch Ness Monster as well.

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