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I've had my dog for 2.5 years now. This might seem like a silly question to most, but I'm kind of oblivious to some things that are obvious to most people (e.g. having allergies, knowing when I'm hungry, when I should go to the doctor, etc.) so I would appreciate helpful responses.

Signs

  • If my dog gets on my bed, I sleep poorly until I change the sheets.
  • If I sleep with my dog in my room, I wake up tired and like I had trouble breathing all night. It's like if my airway was smaller/tighter. I've already been assessed for sleep apnea and they said I'm okay.
  • Even without my dog in the room or on the sheets, when I sleep at home, I wake up pretty tired and it takes me a while to get going in the morning. This doesn't happen when I sleep elsewhere like at hotels.
  • If I clean up my house really well and change the air filter, it seems like I have more energy for a few days.
  • If I take a cetrizine (Zertec) or loratadine (Claratin), I feel a little better in the morning, but it's not like if I slept elsewhere. I don't feel fine, just a little less bad.
  • Basically, I'm always tired when I sleep at home.
  • If I pet a dog and touch my eyes immediately after, my eyes get itchy until I wash them out. This will happen with their saliva as well.
  • If I run my forearm across a dog's back from tail to head and the dog has thick fur, I will get hives from the fur slightly poking my soft skin.
  • If they lick my skin and I don't rinse it off, I may get hives too.

Contra

  • I'm mostly fine throughout the day with regards to what I assume are allergies. My nose is fine, and I rarely sneeze. It's only related to sleep.
  • My nose doesn't get stuffy like I see in other people.

Writing this out, it seems like it's highly probable. If so, what options do I have?

  • Could it be something else causing the sleep issues at home?
  • Is this a reason to see a doctor?
  • Are there meds that work better than Zertec & Claritin and wont make me feel funky like with Benadryl?
  • Do I need to accept that I can't have a dog?
  • Maybe I can make my dog an outside dog? But that seems terrible for a dog that's been inside their whole life and follows me everywhere I go in the house (she's a Rottie). I don't want to sleep poorly and be at 60% for another 10 years.

This is a lot 😬

Edit: Alright, I've got an appt with the doc in 2 weeks. Thanks for the help, everyone!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 22 hours ago

This is genius! thanks for sharing πŸ™‚

[–] [email protected] 3 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

you don't care about your produce! 🫒

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 day ago (3 children)

auties usually spot other auties easily

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

autism beats narcissism by accident. oopsies!

 

If you never lived where it snows and were moving North to where it does snow, what would you have liked to have known? What would you do to prepare?

 

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

i cannot understand why anyone could sleep at night knowing their value in society is 0.

You gotta switch the cables. I'm assuming right now that you only want what you deserve through your labor. If you have extra or someone else is in need, you would rather they have it than you horde it or gain some luxury. Switch the cables so that what you value is hoarding and having luxuries without any merit. If someone else needs something, your power to not give leftovers to them is confirmation of your self-worth.

 

jk! I didn't vote for Hunter Biden πŸ˜‹

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

Thank you! I am doing better πŸ™‚

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago (3 children)

what would happen if you climb into that?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Also: I hope you got away from that ex girlfriend of yours. Breaking things off, then trying to get back together and questioning things that happened in the time off makes her seem like a very bad, controlling person that will drop you the moment someone β€œbetter” comes around.

Oh yeah, totally! I see her behavioral pattern now, but at the time I was oblivious. I must have frustrated her soooo bad. We eventually split but stay more distant friends. She gets a new boyfriend and wants me to meet him. I'm thinking to myself, "Sure. I got along great with her ex, so she probably has a type and I'll get along with the new one." I meet him and this guy is awesome! We get a long so great, we start hanging out apart from her, going rollerblading, playing pick-up sports, tail gating, etc. I'd be at a party and ask, "Yooo, it [exgf's] boyfriend coming?"

Several years later, I tell my roommate who knew her about it. "You know who was cool? [Exgf's] new boyfriend. I wonder what he's up to." My roommate said that she was trying to make me jealous. I was like, "Jokes on her! He became my friend so why would I be jealous?" No no no. That I would be jealous of him being with her. What? Why? Pfft, yeah right! After everything, why in the world would I want to be with her? As far as I was concerned, I felt more comfortable around her knowing that she had a boyfriend because boundaries would be clearly defined. She must have been soooo frustrated, she bought a copy of Forrest Gump just to play it and yell insults at the tv. lmaoooo

Man, sharing these stories are a trip! Thanks for entertaining them πŸ™‚

[–] [email protected] 40 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Things were cool at my house until my dad showed up when I was in late elementary. Slowly, everything started going to crap. Everyone started fighting and it felt like I was caught in the middle of two social camps that were fighting each other. As things worsened, I started being out of the house more and learning to grow up from friends and the streets. Since those places can be unhealthy sometimes, I would get into trouble doing what I thought was normal. In one of those incidents, I was in severe danger from strangers that were trying to kill me and my best friend. The issue was resolved when someone that saw what was happening called the police who even showed up with a helicopter to find the perpetrators (they got away). My friend and I ran from the cops too because we thought we were in trouble. When I got home the next day after hiding all night, my parents didn't believe a word I said. Instead, they thought I was having gay sex (wtf, right?) because one of the kids I was hiding with was openly gay. This turns into a huge battle with all the adults yelling at each other. They start yelling at me with threats of punishments. I leave and just hide in my bedroom while the adults lose their minds on each other. My parents tell me that I can't shut my bedroom door anymore. The day goes by and nothing happens. It's time to go to sleep, but I hadn't been punished yet, so I'm thinking something is pending. I used to have no problem sleeping, but this time I can't fall asleep because I keep waiting for someone to come in since I wont hear the door opening. I figure that if I set up the guitar as described and leave the windows slightly open, it would serve as a warning, wake me up, and maybe I could yell for help and to call police. I'm able to fall asleep, but the guitar drops and I wake up. I stayed frozen waiting to see what will happen. The silhouette freezes too. They slowly and quietly lean the guitar up properly on the wall, walk out, and close the door. I stay awake for the rest of the night, but nothing happened. From then on out, I had mentally divorced my family and saw them as people I had to tolerate and serve as an example of what not to be like.

Thanks for asking.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (7 children)

Check this story out. So freaking embarrassing.

I was in college and my gf had recently broken up with me, so I was just grieving the loss by bouncing around clubs to see who I would run into since my ex I and would always go to the same club/bar with the same social group. As I walked into one club, I saw a girl I had worked on a project with. Btw, she was gorgeous and always very nice and sweet with me. She said hi and asked me what I was doing alone. I told her that I had just broken up with my gf, so I wanted to try out new places. She got really happy, was welcoming, gave me her drink to drink out of, and told me I could hang out with her and her friends for a while. I was happy I had a friend of my own that was caring when I was going through a tough time. We chilled and danced that night away. At last call, I had to figure out a ride home. She said her friend was driving her home, offered to take me back to her place, and she'd take me home in the morning, so I take it. I was broke broke, and cabs were way too expensive.

We get to her place, and I ask if I can have some sheets for the couch. She says she doesn't have any, but I can share the bed with her. I get in her room and it's a twin size, so I ask her if she's really okay with it. I was in the Marine Corps and can sleep anywhere. She gets under the cover and tells me to get in. I ask if it's okay if I sleep in boxers because jeans are too uncomfortable. She makes a silly face and says, "Duh!" I take off my pants, get in bed, give her my back, and pass out. The next morning, she was so weird with me and gave me a ride home. Maybe she was really hung over? I know I was. After that, she didn't really want to talk to me anymore.

A week later, my ex tries to get back with me but says that her friend saw me with the girl. I got happy and said that I was with the girl because I knew her from class, she was really nice, and even gave me a ride to her place to sleep off the night then took me home the next day. See, I'm not the loser that needed her for friends like she would tell me. My ex gets so upset about it, interrogating me for details. I'm open as hell about it because I didn't see anything wrong. In fact, I was proud that I had cool friends that looked out for me even without my ex. She's super upset now and discusses it with her parents, who tell her that I was just trying to know if I was still wanted. She then forgives me. I'm like what for?

This was not the only time a girl was really nice and let me sleep in her bed and then didn't want to talk to me after that. Do I snore a lot? Maybe I move a lot when I'm sleeping. Sometimes, when girls would offer for me to stay at their place, I would warn them by telling them that I think I snore a lot. If I do, just wake me up.

Years later, I'm telling my roommate about how weird the girls in undergrad were and that they were so flaky. One day they're your friend; the next day they don't respond to text messages. He tells me why they would get upset, I'm thinking, "Hmmm, maybe?" Years after that, I realized what happened by reading other people's similar stories. 🀦

#JustAutismThings

Edit: @[email protected], you're going to like this one.

 

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[–] [email protected] 46 points 5 days ago (4 children)

I get it tho. When I was a teenager, things got so bad in my house that I used to booby trap my bedroom door. I'd place an acoustic guitar on its head with the body up and leaning on the door. If the door was opened, the guitar would fall over and make a loud at noise waking me up and alerting the entire house. It saved me once, and then they never tried again.

 

Looking for the perspective of anyone that has lived anywhere in the USA and moved to Puerto Rico. What's it like, what's different, what's nicer, what was unexpected, and would you recommend the move?

 

With winter coming up, I have two options for home heating.

Central unit

  • I can use the central unit and close/open vents throughout the house to heat up only the individual rooms I want. This would heat up rooms very quickly. However, to make this work, the living room with the thermostat will also need to be heated so that the thermostat reads the proper temperature. The living room is by far the largest space at about 2.5 times the size of the largest room.

Oil-filled radiator

  • I can use an oil-filled radiator to heat up an individual room. This would be much slower, but I wouldn't have to heat up the entire living room. However, the oil-filled heater might not be as efficient as the central unit. I don't know. I plan to rarely heat up the living, no more than once per month.

Edit: The central heating unit is actually a heating kit made up of a few coils that is added to the central a/c.

Edit 2: Where I live, it might freeze once per year over night for a few hours.

Which would be more efficient on the electrical bill, and would t be considerable or negligible?

 

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For all my autistics, ADHDers, and AuDHDers out there making it happen with limited support and extra barriers, I know you exist and I'm proud of you. I hope this post helps you feel seen today. ✊❀️

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The universe is humongous.

  • The hard drive space is practically limited to the Big Bang on one end and the heat death of the universe on the other, but it contains all of the data for everything that exists. That's massive.

  • The RAM is massive because it's handling all the variables and changes of the present.

  • The cache is much smaller as established by the study that found the universe is not locally real. Things only happen once they are observed, but it happens almost instantaneously. Still, the cache is massive because it is handling everything that is being observed at the same time. That's a lot of things.

All of the above are massive extremes. However,

  • The processing speed is limited at the speed of light. In comparison to the others, the speed of light is soooooo ridiculously slow, causing a bottle neck.

PS - Massive because it's mass I've observed. Not really tho, you silly goat. Big bang while I swig Tang and watch a twig hang.

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