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Sorry for the potentially controversial question: is it normal for less attractive people to settle down with partners they don't find physically attractive? (sh.itjust.works)

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[–] [email protected] 32 points 3 months ago

For me (a woman - averagely good looking not beautiful or ugly) physical attraction is a yes/no immediate screening by my scumbag subconscious brain and no guy has ever moved from the no bucket into the yes bucket, because to land in the "No" means looks bad enough I can't get past it.

But no guy has ever been attractive to me based only on looks either. Looking better than ok really means nothing.

So not physically attractive? Sure, maybe. Literally physically unattractive to me? No.