No Stupid Questions

not a dumb idea. just say something simple like: "Hey, i'm going down to [comic book store name]. wanna come with?" or "Wanna go to [comic book store name]?" be chill when asking, and smile. if she says "yes," just say, "cool," and make arrangements for when to go.

the best way to avoid getting all nervous, etc. is to keep it very simple.

good luck!

edit: btw, if she says "no," stay chill and say, "ok, well, maybe another time," then walk away. smile again because it's cute. remember: she likes comic books, and you can always ask again, so no need to get too bummed out.

Edit 2: after looking at a lot of these other comments, I think I should mention, re: confidence— RELAX. Take a deep breath and don’t put too much pressure on yourself or the situation. The more natural it goes, the better.

Everyone here is giving advice that seems to try too hard, and I gotta say: don’t. If you’re more relaxed and pay more attention to what she’s interested in, you’ll actually be on your way to developing a relationship.

"Hey, wanna go on a comic book store date with me at [store name] on [day of the week]?

The ask, the expectation of a date (and admission of romantic interest), and a specific time and place. Don't leave the question open-ended or vague. Then she can respond in a few ways: 1. Yes. 2. I'm not free that day; is there another day that we could go? 3. No thank you.

This makes everything as clear as it can be, with little room for misunderstanding. And it's not a dumb idea at all to have a comic book store date. If you have a hard time talking to girls, don't talk to girls. Talk to humans who happen to be girls. They're people, and you're a person too, so you don't need to overthink it.

You got this! Good luck!

It's a good idea. You may want to plan a second activity like lunch or a walk in the park as well.

And just be direct. Something like "Hey, do you want to go on a date with me? We can grab something to eat and go to the comic store."

If she says no, don't push it. Just say okay and wish them well.

I too was terrible at talking to girls. I still am but my girlfriend doesn't seem to mind lol

Whatever you do, just don't try any pickup artist or smooth talking tactics. It's gross and cringey, doubly so if you don't have the confidence to pull it off.

I would also disagree with a lot of the other comments, if you want to date this person, make it clear you want a date. Don't try to do the be friends then turn it romantic thing. It can work but not when you already know you want to date them.

I'm a girl who likes comics. Do it. If you can find a nerdy shop with snacks, even better. Ask her about her favorite characters and have her pick out one for you to read, if you don't know it. That would be an awesome green flag for me. Be careful not to get too serious/gate-keepy, though. An open mind is the best way to approach this.

Sounds like a good first date idea of she's into comics. Meet in public, you have plenty to talk about - which comics you like, dislike, certain artists you might like the style of, etc.

I once plucked up my courage to ask a girl if she would like to go see a particular show with me the following night. She said “I would, but I am already doing something tomorrow.”

I was totally unprepared for this answer and just heard “no.” She was probably a little surprised to be asked out suddenly, and didn’t take the initiative to suggest another day.

We didn’t go out. That was that. Huge mistake by me. So my advice is: be open to complications in her answer. And listen closely. If she says “I have plans.” that’s a polite decline. If she literally says “I would like to go, but I have plans,” that’s quite different.

It’s hard to hear the differences and react smoothly if you’re nervous about asking, like I was. Best of luck!

Go to more than just the store. Like go hang out at the store and have fun, then go someplace for a light lunch or even a walk in a park.

Do it! My wife was reading over my shoulder and she though the whole idea was super cute.

Good luck :)

Yeah I think it's a good idea, meeting in a public space would make her feel more comfortable, and maybe if things go well you can head to a coffee shop later.

If you only talked to her once or something and didn't know her that well, maybe just ask her to hang out at the comic book store and mention you enjoyed talking with her, or something you genuinely liked when you last talked to her (other than her looks).

This sets up a low expectation meeting where you can figure out if it's a crush or you actually like her and if it's not mutual you can just hang out as friends if both of you are comfortable with that. The goal should be to feel out of you like her and not to try and convince her to go on a real date, just be yourself and see if there is compatibility in a one on one setting.

Just be honest with how you feel at the the and respect her feelings as well.

Not dumb

Ok, so for your confidence:

Had I asked my ex wife on a date when we met, I probably would have lost my virginity that night. Just to give you an idea of how good of an idea it is.

Now, your results may vary, so don't expect that. But if she likes comics the answer is hes

The only issue I’d see is that there ambiguity as to whether it’s a date or just shopping with a friend. But that happens with a lot of dates unless you’re doing something classic like asking them to dinner, which isn’t always the most exciting date

Thing is, for some people it would be dumb. But why would you want to date or even be friends with them? Sounds like the chick you want would want to go on a comic book store date so go for that chick till you find her.

Here's to hoping you already have

Yes but suggestion: go on a night they're doing an event like a board game night so you're not just wandering around and have a reason to sit and interact for a while.

The hardest part of meeting girls is talking to them. It takes guts to put yourself out there and resilience to handle the rejection if it doesn't go the way you want.

Ask her out. A public option is good. Something she likes. Comics are a good start if that's her thing.

If she says 'yes'. On your date:

• Be very hygienic (shower, clean clothes, brushed teeth, gum)
• Ask courteous questions and listen. I have yet to meet someone that doesn't enjoy talking about themselves (yes, I know they exist). This also makes your end of the conversation easier. Favorite music, food, places to visit, hobbies, etc.
• Have a next place in mind if things are going well, but the comic shop has gotten stale (coffee, dinner, a walk somewhere well lit, etc.). Be open to her suggestions.

If she says 'No,' be respectful, and try not to take it to hard. It wasn't meant to be. Take pride knowing you had the guts to try.

Good luck. Be brave. Be respectful.

If she's into comics, then it's probably a brilliant first date.

it's public, you can arrive separately and leave separately (a safety thing; for both of you, but especially her.) it's probably quiet enough to have a convesation without being too quiet. and if things are going well, you can maybe go on to coffee or whatever. (unless they have a cafe in the shop. then that's even better.) then, it's reasonably assured it's interesting to her, so you're both engaged.

One of the best first dates of my life was going to the Comic Museum in San Francisco. You could do worse than a comic book store. @skulkingaround has the best advice. Good luck!

I think it sounds like a great idea! Some people treat dates like they're supposed to be impressing the other person. The best dates are the ones that are just about getting to know someone.

Of course the usual date rules apply. Listen more than you talk. Be considerate. Don't criticize her interests. Have fun!

As I said in a reply to someone else, I highly recommend you are clear in your intentions. If she thinks it's just a hangout, lots of things can get wrong. She might get mad when you bring up date stuff. She might invite other friends.

Don't take your cues from romcoms.

Also, how old are you, approximately? Is this urban, suburban?

Have some ideas for what to do next if she accepts your date, because you don't want to be bored in the shop after an hour and fizzle. Know some public places nearby for food or drinks.

holy shit, big bang theory